Can Babies teach their Mamas?

I think so......this couple are babies..25 yrs old, but already have it over so many twice their age...

Been together 8 years, they are actually growing and learning together....under no illusions about each others.....

Has their relationship been tested....Yes, several times, and the result has always been the same...they are absolutely there for each other....

Will they be tested again..........of course, will they make it?

Who knows, but they have taught me a thing or two about love.....................Guess maybe I had something to contribute.....I am his Mama.

I wish them well for the rest of their journey..........................whatever that may bring!!!!

Karma? Is there such a Thing?

I have always believed in Karma, what goes around comes around, that what you put out, you get back. Some may call it just plain old consequences of your own actions. My wise old daughter of 20, has a saying that You cant escape your Karma, because it lies within you.



Whatever its called, I have seen it in action many times including in my own life. Although, sometimes it hardly seems that the crime fits the punishment. I get the notion that if you dont look after stuff, it breaks, but people are a different story altogether.
People are constantly broken, and some just wanna stay that way, no matter what!
Even if you want to reverse the consequences of your actions, sometimes you just cant, and you just have to face up to it....cop it sweet, so to speak!
I have recently seen someone who for the last twenty years has been living the lie, and bang now it has exploded all over his life, his relationships, his children..etc etc. All because of a lie told over twenty years ago, that was meant to save his face, but has definately come back to bite him on the arse now.
And he still doesnt get it! So I guess it will continue until he does....
Since I was the subject of his little white lie, I have to say that it was quite sweet to see......although it was a long time coming!
I guess it is true....It maynot happen overnight, but it will happen!!!!

Sharks Or Dolphins? It's Your Choice!

You know the best thing about nearly losing your mind......
Getting it back again!
It's like a long lost friend that you haven't seen for a while, and then they surprise you and turn up unexpectedly....well the drinks are on me cos this is a cause for celebration!!
When you've opened up your head and had a real good look at what's in there, thrown out the rubbish and given it a real good old spring clean,
It's amazing how clear everything becomes.
Like a crystal blue ocean on a hot summers day, I can finally see all the danger that lurks beneath.
I have been letting those sharks feed off me for a long time now, it must have been all that bleeding and splashing around I did.....but not anymore cos I have stitched up those wounds, and taken some serious swimming lessons................
And guess what, now I'm ready to swim with the dolphins!!

A Perception Based on Reality

What am I supposed to be getting here?

You have two contradictory realities happening ......

What you say.....which puts you in a positive light!

AND..What you actually do...which puts you in the negative!

How could I possibly believe your words, when your actions tell a different story?

What would you like me to believe?

That you treated me with the love, respect, honesty and dignity, that I deserved.

That you are a stand-up guy that steps up to the plate when the going gets tough.

That you were on my team, and always on the look-out for me!

That you feel empathy for me and understand my feelings!

That you value the amount of money I invested in our future together!

That you will forever cherish the memories and times we shared!

That you loved me so very much and how painful it was to leave me

That you missed me and wanted to keep me in your life, because you valued what I had contributed to it!

That you were actually interested in resolving our issues so we could both gain something from our experience!

Yes, these are the things that you would have me believe, but on what basis? Where is the proof of any of this?

When in my reality you took what was given in love, and when the well run dry, you left!
You never made any contact, you wiped me out of your existence!
And when I gave you many many opportunities to prove any of the above to be true, I was treated like a nuisance, an intrusion, an embarrassment from your past, , a stalker, a dangerous person.
You replaced me immediately, if not before you left!
You took all my insecurities and vulnerabilities and used them against me!
You looked down your nose at the life I had struggled to build!
You de-valued my efforts and said I had no purpose, when my whole existence revolved around making you happy!
Is this what you want me to get?
That you distort the truth in your own mind, so that you can justify anything that you do to people.
That pretty much every negative thing you said about me, is contradicted by my actions.
That pretty much every positive thing you said to me, is contradicted by your actions.
Because this is what you gave me! And since you told me you never do or say anything by chance, I assume this is what you intended!

It's Wrong

If I like 70's music, it's wrong
If my fashion is not to your taste, it's wrong
If I wear my hair with a fringe, it's wrong
My eyes were the wrong colour, my face to old,
My body the wrong shape, my hormones gone wild

If I don't keep moving, it's wrong
If I'm not purposeful, it's wrong,
If I dont have an opinion, it's wrong,
If I do have one, it's also wrong

If I fight when attacked, it's wrong
If I lay down and die, it's wrong,
If I have fears, it's wrong
If I am fearless, it's also wrong

If I'm upset when you don't come home, it's wrong
If I feel threatened when you lie about who your with, it's wrong
If I cry cos you hurt me, it's wrong
If I get mad, cos you lie, it's wrong
If I'm sad cos you left me, it's wrong

I tried to please you, it was wrong
I tried to please myself, it's wrong
I didn't love you enough, it's wrong
I loved you too much, it's wrong

If I was just being me, it's wrong
And she will be wrong soon too
What could I have done to make any of this right?